If you see one or more of the cheating warning signs below, talk to your partner about it ASAP, and consider checking out couple’s therapy.
1. Your partner has cheated before
Sadly the old wisdom holds water — cheaters cheat. That’s why it’s inadvisable to marry someone who was cheating in an affair with you — when you’re the spouse, you’ll get cheated on. People who feel entitled to s*x any way they can get it will always rationalize cheating and just keep doing it.
2. Habits change
If your partner suddenly or gradually stops coming home on time when they used to arrive home at 6 p.m. sharp, this is not a good sign at all. Habit changes, like dressing better, spending more money or dodging phone calls, are all big red flags that could indicate cheating.
3. Random gifts are given
OK, OK, we’re certainly not suggesting that you look a gift horse in the mouth and accuse your guy or gal of cheating when they bring you flowers on a whim, but “guilt gifts” are common when someone is getting nookie on the side. If a partner who has never thought to buy you flowers before suddenly starts bringing home roses on the regular, something may be amiss.
4. New bills pop up
Maybe they’re taking up some new hobbies, or maybe they’re trying to cover their tracks. unidentifiable charges on a credit card are often one of the easiest ways to catch a cheater.
5. Work becomes secret
Remember those super-adorable conversations you used to have about what you were doing all day long, constant chats, emails and texts? While the flirty passion of the early days is likely to fizzle in a relationship over time, it can be a bad sign if your partner clams up completely about their time spent at work. This may be a sign that they’re keeping a secret.
6. The denial games begin
If getting your partner to even acknowledge your suspicions of cheating could be described as “slippery” at best, that may be another compounded warning sign of infidelity. Because the person who was cheated on will be fearful of the infidelity happening again. They will be triggered and paranoid if there is any suspicion of subsequent cheating behaviors.”
A partner who remains defensive or is unwilling to help rebuild the trust that was lost may have “serial cheater” written all over them.